Manchester: Age 57, Pam passed away on October 10, 2024, at Strong Memorial Hospital in Rochester. She was born on January 28, 1967. Predeceased by her grandmother, Alice (Fisher) Lincoln. She is survived by her husband, Ashley “Lee” Vanskiver of Manchester, daughters, Emilee Aaron (Devin Tylenda) of Wolcott, Sarah Beck (Kaine Lord) of Canandaigua, parents, Lou and Jeanette (Lincoln) Aaron, sister, Beth (Michael) Morath, and Louis (Joylette) Aaron—grandchildren, Daniel, Elorah, Maddy, Logan, and “future” grandson Hudson.
Pam didn’t believe in selfish advances such as money, possessions, fame, or reputation. She endlessly believed in selfless acts of kindness. Her aura shined with brilliance and positively influenced everybody around her. Every connection she made throughout her life was profound and significant in its own way. Her reach spread far beyond what you could imagine.
Pam’s occupations reflected who she was as a person. Whether it was her 16 years at Ontario ARC, her 14 years at The Villager Restaurant, or her time at FLACRA she helped and served the community in more ways than one. Camping, crocheting, and cake decorating were amongst her favorite things to do, but above all spending time with her family and grandkids meant the most to her. She will forever be missed and never forgotten.
Friends and family are invited to call from 12 PM to 2 PM on Saturday, October 26, 2024, at the Kevin W. Dougherty Funeral Home, 8624 Main Street in Honeoye, NY. Pam’s Memorial Service will immediately follow calling. Please note, that the family is expecting the birth of Hudson in the near future and the date could change. To share a memory or a condolence, please visit: www.doughertyfuneralhomes.com
Pam the world lost it’s smile in my soul. Ashley and Lee and family my heart bleeds and I am always in your corner.
Many memories at Jefferson Skating rink followed by great sadness. I am sure all of us will keep you living through the happy fun filled memories. Rest in peace Pam.
I just heard about Pam’s passing today and I’m so sorry. My deepest condolences to all of Pam’s family. I haven’t seen Pam in a very long time, but she was such an amazing, sweet, caring, happy, beautiful person who was always so nice to people. I’m sure she’s had a profound impact on people throughout her live, as I have always remembered Pam and how great a person she was. The world got a little darker because Pam was such a bright light. I’m so sorry to the family and everyone that was lucky enough to know Pam. Pam and her family will always be in my thoughts.
Oh Pam, I don’t even know where to start!!! I mean, there’s so many amazing memories, your laugh! Your spirit!! You filled every room with your presence!!! I will always think of you and salmonella, or as Sarah said, “I’m not eatin that” WHY?!?!, (bread and butter) “sail-la-minno-na yuck!!” LOL “Christina, what are you teaching my girls?!?” OOOH NO!!! That was mom!! She was teaching them about raw chicken on a counter!!! ??
The card nights, citronella candles, the mayor, the chat line, and oh so many amazing times!!! You got robbed!!! Your daughters got robbed!! Your grand babies got robbed!!! Everyone who knew you, got robbed!!! You were taken far too soon my friend and I will forever miss you!!! ?? til we meet again!!! ?
Pam, you will be missed by so many. You were so gracious and full of positive energy. Gone far too soon 🙁
Wishing her family and loved ones comfort and peace. I worked with her at Arc and I can only remember her joyous smile and positivity… Rest in peace Pam ???? Julie
Pam was very loving and cared about people. I wasn’t around her very much, but she was always very nice to me. She will be missed greatly. Rest in peace Pam God Bless you I am here Uncle
What a loss to community, friends and family alike! Pam will be missed like no other! Tell Mike and his parents we said Hi!
Pam, I am so glad I got to see you & give you a big hug at Ruthie’s party. You & Rhonda were once in a lifetime friends, she loved you dearly ?? Quite a pair of babysitters I can attest to. RIP ? your love will go on.
I LOVE YOU SO MUCH BABY ?? I WILL CHERISH EVERY MEMORY WE SHARED FROM DAY 1 AT THE VILLAGER TO YOUR LAST DAY ON EARTH, JUST KNOW THAT YOU MADE ME THE HAPPIEST MAN ON EARTH EACH AND EVERY SINGLE DAY ?? YOU CHANGED MY LIFE FOREVER IN MORE WAYS THAN YOU WILL EVER KNOW,,RIP SPAMILICIOUS ???
She was a beautiful soul inside and out I worked with her at Arc and eberheart she will be missed
You were always so positive and such a bright light. I can’t believe you left the world so soon. ?
Sending my deepest sympathy to the family, I am so glad I was able to see you at Applebee’s and reconnected after many years. You will always have a special place in my heart. Until we meet again. Love you my friend.
Still cannot believe this has happened! Sincere condolences to her entire family and friends. She was one in a million, no one will ever take her place.
Sincere Condolences,
Alan and Pat Merklinger
Well Pamala jane , I miss you so much , you have been there for me for everything! I will be a bills fan for the rest of my time . You were the best friend to me that everyone would want .you were a GREAT person In side and out ! I hope you are up there dancing with my sisters ! All as I can say is I love and miss you ! Rhonda Lee. RIP
Love from the Saunders,the Klinesand the Carrs. We all loved you very much . You were like a part of our family
To the family sending my deepest sympathy.
My dearest friend I will miss you. !
This is unbelievable. Watching the Bills game while reading your obituary is so cruel. I love you so much.