Huningtown, MD: At age 36, Alex passed away unexpectedly on October 7, 2023. He was born on September 22, 1987 in Rochester, NY to Philip and Sandra (Stockslader) Recchio. In addition to his parents, he is survived by his daughter Leila Rose; brothers Philip (Nicki) Recchio, Gabriel Recchio; sister, Melissa Glenn; grandmother, Carol Stockslader; uncle Fred (Diana) Recchio, Michael (Patty) Stockslader; aunt Susan Smelt (John Ahlman), aunt Anita (Kyle) Addy; nieces Avielle and Mira; Leila’s mother, Alyssa Thomas, along many other dear friends and extended family. Grandparents, Fred (Olga) Recchio and Albert Stockslader predeceased him.
Alex attended Livonia High School, class of 2005. He went on to earn his Bachelor’s degree in Culture and Communication at Ithaca College. Alex worked at the Conesus Inn during his high school and college years and succeeded in various technology sales roles throughout his career.
A voracious reader, Alex was a standout student and loved Hemingway, Vonnegut, and fantasy fiction like The Wheel of Time and Harry Potter. He was built like an Italian god – a fierce competitor playing hockey, football, and varsity soccer and lacrosse. He loved to talk so much his daughter says he has a “Masters degree in chatter boxing”, and he was dynamic and engaging wherever he went. He shared his musical skills on stage singing a solo during Livonia High’s rendition of The Music Man and delivered a howling performance as the Wolf from Into the Woods. A friend to all, his fire-engine red, mop-top of curly hair could be seen from a mile away, and his booming voice always let you know fun times were approaching. He was a lifelong Buffalo Bills fan, a David Lynch and Twin Peaks aficionado, and a pop-culture encyclopedia. He was passionate about social progress and was enthusiastic yet critical of dominant power structures. As any Bills fan can relate, Alex was not a stranger to suffering. Over the years, like many of his generation, he battled the insidious disease of addiction. He was an advocate for the harm reduction movement and he inspired others to see beyond harmful stereotypes and be of service to people suffering from addiction instead.
Family and friends may call on Friday, October 20th, from 4pm – 7pm at the Kevin W. Dougherty Funeral Home Inc., 21 Big Tree Street, Rte 15 & 20A, Livonia, NY.
Alex’s Funeral Mass will be held at 10:00am on Saturday, October 21st, at St. Matthew Catholic Church, 6591 Richmond Mills Road, Rte 20A, Livonia, NY. Burial will follow at St. Michael’s Cemetery, Livonia.
Alex’s funeral service will be live streamed and can be watched by going to the following link http://www.stsmaryandmatthew.com
In lieu of flowers, the family asks memorial donations be made in Alex’s honor to an educational trust fund for his daughter Leila. She carries on Alex’s genius and wit, and we encourage those who want to support Alex’s memory to help invest in Leila’s future. Donations can be made here: https://www.troweprice.com/usis/go-tuition-gift/maryland-529/c2d8cb98b2414db1a4db510d78aff974. To send a condolence or share a memory please visit: http://www.doughertyfuneralhomes.com
I’m so sorry for your loss. Alex’s loving energy and infectious smile could always lift up those around him. I will forever cherish our friendship and carry the memories we shared. Rest easy, brother. I love you.
Mush and Sandy Mae,
So sorry for your loss. Just heard of the news through the “grapevine”.
Hoping for nothing but the best for you and your family.
Although it’s been a while…still thinking of you.
Best
John Stryker (Dubs)
We are very sorry to hear the news of Alex’s death. Our thoughts are with the Recchio family.
Phil
Our condolences to you and your family. We hope you will find peace.
Phil, your family is in our prayers. God bless.
My heart is heavy to hear this news. I worked with Alex at the Conesus Inn for several years and always loved his humor and presence. I hope his spirit is at rest on the other side.
So sorry for your loss. Our prayers are with all of you.
I’m saddened by this loss! The laughs, hugs and tears we had together in our stay at The Avenues last August will forever be in my heart! Thank you for sharing him! He was a huge cheerleader in recovery. His smile was contagious! He talked about both of you, his daughter and his siblings all the time. He said that I reminded him of his mom! I took that as a huge compliment!! My thoughts and prayers are with you forever. Blessings for all! xoxo
My heart is broken think ing about such a great loss. Alex was here often with Anthony and many other friends from their High School days. I will never forget Alex’s beautiful face, sense of humor and smile. Our prayers are with you and your family.
Karen and Carlo Filice
Sandy, Phil and Family,
Alexis’s passing so young is an unfathomable loss for all of you. I hope that your memories of Alexis, his daughter and the support of family and friends will sustain you now. I send my heartfelt condolences.
Lynn Mutch
Sandy and Family
I am so very sorry for your significant loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.
Alex was part of my early life in Livonia – the precious years that kids sponge up info and social behaviors. So thanks Alex – because I most remember you for being a book worm – and conversing with others about your exploration of literature amongst the other subject’s you excelled at We can all appreciate his love and passion to explore intellectually. You made many positive impacts, man, so rest in peace.
Recchio Family,
My heart is hurting for your loss. I so enjoyed teaching Alex and all of the great conversations we had. Thank you for sharing about his struggles and triumphs and putting a face to the terrible disease of addiction. Rest easy Alex.
Phil and Sandy. We heard of Alex’s passing. Unbearable the thought. We never knew him as an adult. So many yrs have passed. Yet I still have vivid memories of that little curly redheaded ball of energy running through the back yards. His bubbling spirit always gave me joy and put a smile on my face. It is with deep regret we received this news. God bless him. Mark and Tonia Logan.
Phil and Sandy,
So sorry for your loss. Prayers for you and your family
Thank you for being so honest about his struggles with such a vicious disease. More people suffer from addiction than we ever admit. May peace be with you and his daughter.
We are so sorry for your loss. Sincere condolences and prayers for all of you.
Love, John and Kristen Harding
Sandy and Phil and Family. I am praying to the Lord to heal your wounds. God Bless you all at this most trying time.
Heartbroken. Sending all my love to you all. Xoxo
Alex was such a special soul. I was so fond of him all through school. No matter what was going on he always knew how to make me laugh, and I’ll forever remember that. I pray that you all find comfort with this tremendously devastating loss. Rest in peace my friend.
Sandy and Phil
I can’t imagine how unbearable this loss must be for you and your entire family. There are no words just please know my heart goes out to both of you.
Keith Granet
Phil, Sandy and family.. may God give you comfort at this terrible time.. my heart goes out to all of you..
Phil and Sandy. there are no words, spoken or written. Know that many others share this with you, stand beside you and pray for you at this difficult time. God bless you and your family my friend. Mike Bellapianta
I will always remember Alex for the friend he was to our exchange student Audrey! He spent a lot of time at our house and we always enjoyed seeing that mop of red hair come through the door! He had a smile that lit up a room! I am so incredibly sad and sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine what you and HE went/are going through. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Phil, Sandy and Family,
Words are hollow at this difficult time but please know that you are all in our thoughts and prayers. Sending our love,
Frank and Arline
My deepest condolences to the whole Reccio family. It’s such a loss for anyone to go though. Losing a parent is one thing but losing a child is devastating. May his soul Rest In Peace. God’s blessings to you all.
Phil and Sandy, I can’t comprehend what or how you are feeling right now. I understand addiction in our children. We have faced it, too. My heart is breaking for you. Sending you “thoughts and prayers” feels ridiculously inadequate, but it’s all I have.
Joy – classmate of Phil and Sandy
Dear Phil, Sandy and Family, we are close friends of Fred and Diana in California and were devastated to hear of the loss of your beloved son. From everything they’ve told us he was truly a wonderful young man. Please accept our condolences and know that we are thinking of you during this very difficult time. Love to your whole family. Susie and Jon Kaplan
My heart breaks for you. I pray for strength for you & Sandy. Alex will live on in your hearts & your soul & you will feel him from above, now you guardian angel.
Love & blessings
Cousin LuAnne
I am so very sorry for your loss. I remember coming visit you and your family as a kid with my parents and have very fond memories of our adventures. Dad passed earlier this year so I pray for strength as you navigate this difficult time.
Sarah Graham, Deborah (and Doug) Harris
We are so sorry to hear of his passing. I remember him playing youth football with my husband coaching Alex & little Gabe. Tim remembers him very fondly, he loved those Recchio boys very well, they had heart & a strong work ethic. Praying for your family.
Phil and Sandy,
My heart goes out to you both and your family. I pray that you are given strength, perseverance, and be surrounded by Love. Lean on the Lord.
Come to me, all of you that are burdened and I will refresh you.
(Mathew Chapter 11, vs 28.)
With Love,
Phil and Erica Ayer
Sandy and family,
My deepest sympathy for your loss. My heart gose out to you all. I pray that the Lord will
Hold you up in His loving arms, and gives you strength, hope and peace. Sending huges and love to you Sandy and family.
Joan Irish
Phil, may you find strength and love through this difficult time.
Sorry for your loss.
There are no words…so so sorry for your loss. Just know that you all are in our thoughts and prayers everyday.
We are so very sorry for your loss. Praying for all of his your family and friends.
Alex had the best smile, he was always smiling when we saw him.
I am very sorry for this unbearable loss to the Recchio family and his innumerable friends.
Sending love,
a former classmate and coworker
Alex
We love you and you will always be in our thoughts and prayers
RIP
Uncle Mike & Aunt Patty
Phil and Sandy, and Family
I am so sorry for your loss of Alex. A bright spirit and loving son, he is a guardian angel for all your family. Prayers are flooding your family, mine included.
Love to all,
Rosemary and The Colemans