Geneseo: At age 69, Tom passed away unexpectedly on October 26, 2023. Tom was born on September 10, 1954, to Arthur and Kathryn Oliver. He is survived by his wife of 39 years, Marceline (Stieve) Oliver, daughter Christine Wingerden (Christian Valenti), grandson Michael Wingerden, his dog Mugsy, brother Edward (Sue) Oliver, sister Janet (Ron) Oliver, dear cousins Barb (Jerry) Harrell, Charlie DeGroff and longtime friends Randy & Ava.
Tom dedicated his entire life to helping others, he loved and cherished every moment spent with family. He was the one to always put things into perspective and share his wisdom with all, making him the family “rock”. His strength and courage will be greatly missed by all. If you were lucky enough to know Tom, you will smile when hearing the quote that he lived by “A stranger is just a friend I haven’t met yet”.
Tom loved his family most of all, as family was always a priority to him. Tom enjoyed nature and was an experienced outdoorsman. He loved boating, sailing, biking, camping, scuba diving, hunting, working on cars and anything outdoors. He also liked playing the drums and guitar, he especially loved playing with Mugsy. Tom grew up in Rochester, NY, attended Aquinas Institute then St. John Fisher college. He was a seasoned machinist, and retired from Brinkman Precision Inc.
At Tom’s request, there will be no calling hours or service. A celebration of life will be held at a later date. Memorial contributions can made in Tom’s memory to the American Heart Association P.O. Box 840692 Dallas, TX 75284-0692. To send a condolence or share a memory please visit: www.doughertyfuneralhomes.com
Tom was a good friend of both me and my wife. We have known Tom’s entire family for over fifty years. His mother and father were like parents to my wife Sherry. We will miss him dearly,
Rest in peace and God bless you.
Bob & Sherry Moshey
I did not know Tom well, but he will forever be attached to one of our favorite stories.
Tom worked with my BF (Tim Williams). One snowy night many years ago, Tim stopped his sled onto a partially frozen pond (he likes to say on purpose so my son didn’t follow) and sank himself and the sled. Tim made it home that night, the sled sat at the bottom of this pond for a week. I am not exactly sure how the conversation went, but Tom and his scuba gear became part of the sled rescue plan. The pond was located in the middle of a corn field and could only be seen from a new section of a housing tract: there were no drivable roads or trails to the pond. In the middle of Dec in a cut corn field, we have Tom- in this scuba gear going up and down in this cold and muddy pond trying to attach the sled.
Standing along the edge of the pond was a family friend, his 2 sons (plus their 4-wheelers), Tim, my son and myself. Well, some nosy neighbor called 911, cause the next thing you know we had firetrucks attempting to get to us. While Tom was still struggling to hook floatation devices up to the sled (muddy water made his visibility almost zero), the kids all grabbed reeds from along the edge and pretended to be fishing. The firemen did not attempt to walk out to us since we weren’t flagging them down for the body (Tom) that was bobbing in the pond. Eventually they left. An ambulance made the same attempt about 30 min later. It was a long cold day- but we got that sled out of the pond with all of the credit going to Tom.
I wish Tom’s family strength and love in this difficult time. Please reach out if you would like to see some of the pictures from that day.
My sincere condolences. Tom was such a wonderful person and will be missed by all.
Marcy and family , so very sorry to hear of Tom’s passing. We are in shock. Condolences to you all
Oh, Marcy and Chrissy, I’m so sorry to hear of Tom’s passing. I have so many great memories of spending time with your family over many years. My heart hurts for you- Love you so very much.
Tom was the nicest person you would ever want to meet. Laid back, smart and always had an interesting something to say. You will be missed always but are now in the caring hands of our Lord.
Doddie and I send our heartfelt sympathy and blessings to Marcy and. All his family. Rest in peace my friend.